I agree – although it was difficult, my mother forced me out of my comfort zone and made me do things I did not want to do while my sister “the baby” of the family was treated much more softly.
The difference in our independence is night and day. We both suffer with problems with anxiety and social situations, but I have learned to push through the anxiety and she seems to have a much harder time than I do.
Once again I can NOT take credit for the following article, but I wanted to share as it was worth a read.
Temple Grandin is a huge inspiration to me and listening to her audio book actually sparked the “aha moment” that led me to realize that I was on the spectrum. If Temple is “the woman who thinks like a cow” than I am the woman who thinks like a dog.
A new autism book, The Loving Push, encourages parents to gently and lovingly nudge children on the spectrum to perform activities outside their comfort zone. This book is written by Dr. Temple Grandin, a leading spokesperson on autism, as well as psychologist Debra Moore.
In the book, Dr. Grandin gives an example of how her mother encouraged herto step outside her comfort zone; she urged her to go to the store to get lumber for something she was building. Grandin’s mother had deduced that her child’s motivation to do the project would help her overcome her anxiety. She was right. Dr. Grandin encourages other parents to do the same for their children, gently pushing them to reach their full potential.
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