Temple Grandin Explains Why It’s Necessary to Pull ASD Children Out of Their Comfort Zone

I agree – although it was difficult, my mother forced me out of my comfort zone and made me do things I did not want to do while my sister “the baby” of the family was treated much more softly.

The difference in our independence is night and day. We both suffer with problems with anxiety and social situations, but I have learned to push through the anxiety  and she seems to have a much harder time than I do.

Once again I can NOT take credit for the following article, but I wanted to share as it was worth a read.

Temple Grandin is a huge inspiration to me and listening to her audio book actually sparked the “aha moment” that led me to realize that I was on the spectrum. If Temple is “the woman who thinks like a cow” than I am the woman who thinks like a dog.

A new autism book, The Loving Push, encourages parents to gently and lovingly nudge children on the spectrum to perform activities outside their comfort zone. This book is written by Dr. Temple Grandin, a leading spokesperson on autism, as well as psychologist Debra Moore.

In the book, Dr. Grandin gives an example of how her mother encouraged herto step outside her comfort zone; she urged her to go to the store to get lumber for something she was building. Grandin’s mother had deduced that her child’s motivation to do the project would help her overcome her anxiety. She was right. Dr. Grandin encourages other parents to do the same for their children, gently pushing them to reach their full potential.


Please read full article here.


5 thoughts on “Temple Grandin Explains Why It’s Necessary to Pull ASD Children Out of Their Comfort Zone”

  1. Thank you for sharing this. We have believed this with our child from the beginning. We know that one day he will have to live in the world and the world will not adapt to him and that he needs to learn how to make it work for him. We are giving him the supports and strategies now while he is younger with the thinking that as he grows we begin to slowly withdraw the supports until he can do it on his own. This is not to say all children will be able to do this but many can.

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  2. Important, though:
    1) motivation. His/her well-being – or you (the owner / caretaker / parent /?) regaining your lost social standing / status.
    2) related to #1 – you are ‘shaping clay’. With an NT, you’re effectively dealing with something akin to *Raku* or, at worst, stoneware clay. (It can handle a brute-force treatment, comparatively speaking, and the outcome will still ‘work’ (due to having ‘appropriate instincts’, socially speaking)).

    Autists, on the other hand, tend to be closer to ***porcelain*** when they’re ‘on the wheel’. There’s no grit in porcelain; it needs a delicate touch. You’ve got to pay ***close*** attention to the feedback it gives you – an ounce too much force, an instant’s clumsiness, go too fast with it – disaster. Your cup goes all lopsided, the wall tears, and it splays out into a jagged mess. I made lots of ‘messes before I learned about porcelain’s fragile softness.

    So, go easy. Listen. Have the right attitude – and look at yourself before you start ‘beating on’ those entrusted to you.


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