Anger – Asperger’s Girl Anja Melissa Explains

I don’t talk about my anger issues any more. They are behind me now and I don’t like to dwell on negative things in the past.

When I was younger I was much more explosive and even experienced the blind rage described in the video below. I’ve overcome these difficulties, with much work. Anger is a toxic emotion and I am happier when I don’t allow it to get the best of me.

Now my one HUGE pet peeve is – I HATE when someone changes my plans or interrupts me in the middle of a planned activity.

I instantly have an internal explosion of anger in my head like an atomic bomb when this happens. Its a knee-jerk reaction that I cannot. These feelings are held inside behind a smile or a downward gaze and an inhale or sigh.

I don’t know why it happens but it is distressing and illogical. I know I should not be upset by an interruption but I can’t help the way my adrenal gland fires before my logic kicks in. Something in the way I am wired. It is nice to hear that I am not the only one.

I love Anja Melissa‘s YouTube channel! Please check her out, like her videos and subscribe to her channel. She’s doing good work making these videos and educating the world.

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15 thoughts on “Anger – Asperger’s Girl Anja Melissa Explains”

  1. That’s a handy video. But I’ve never got violent or thrown things around. What happens with me is that I get angry and shout and the air turns somewhat incredibly blue and before the situation degenerates any further I walk off to be by myself.
    Apparently that is the best way to handle it anyway, walk away and find solitude. What gets me like that? Usually, not being listened to, being accused of something I haven’t done, not given the chance to have my say but everyone assuming things instead, people being totally irrational and illogical and not bothering to check their facts first. That happens and then ‘boom’.
    Always upsetting for me when that happens, when I was younger it caused me a great deal of mental anguish as I couldn’t understand why this happened, and tried repeatedly to stop it affecting me this way but I couldn’t.

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  2. I’m glad you posted this. People are really surprised to hear that I had an anger issue, because it wouldn’t appear to be in our nature.
    Changing plans…woof. I’m not even going to get into how hard that is.
    Have you heard of St. John’s Wort? It helps with your mood, and I use it everyday. It really helps.

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  3. I really love how she explains the difference between a meltdown and blind rage. I think a lot of people assume they are the same thing or that both start from the same place or end up at the same place and that just isn’t the case. I experience issues with rage when I feel overwhelmed with stress (usually because of breaks in scheduled plans or when things go really wrong…like my oven breaking right before I need to bake something) but it’s very different than the meltdowns I have from my panic disorder. I think acknowledging that people lose control for a variety of reasons is important and anger itself is such a difficult emotion and impulse to handle and control. Thanks for sharing 🙂

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  4. A wonderful girl who knows how to manage life in a complex and difficult world. I subscribed to her You Tube channel a few weeks ago. She has some really interesting advice that has made me realise my best qualities. Thanks for sharing.

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  5. Interruption of plans IS frustrating! But to hear you have worked through the anger tells me what a truly strong and awesome person you are. And it tells me that you are very wise to recognize what needs to be dealt with. Thank you so much for being such an inspiring person!

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  6. This is yet another article that resonates very deeply with me. When I was younger, I used to feel such anger that I would end up breaking things, or punching walls, anything to avoid hurting people, which I was afraid of doing.
    Now I feel calmer, in general, but sudden changes and unexpected occurrences cause me problems – all anger is directed inward now, which I don’t suppose is any more healthy for me, but it is weaker than when I was young so that’s something.

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  7. Thank you for liking my article about,”Tests in Life” and following my blog. Thank you for sharing your experiences too. In time you will feel ok to share more things about you. For that you need to feel ready. there is a time for everything. Patience is the key. I wish you the best of luck with your blog. And Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me to you ❤ 🙂

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  8. Anger has always been one of my biggest issues because I’m constantly told how inappropriate it is/I am and I fear even with my recent DX it is a hard one to train those around me to accept or handle differently. It’s the side of me labelled ‘unacceptable’ and attempts to internalise it for various reasons have not been good for my mental health 😟 Thanks for the thought-provoking video.

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  9. Thank you so much for creating this blog Anna. I also experienced anger issues in relation to being an Autistic individual. It is rare for me to experience them now as I have learned to channel my feelings in different ways.

    I’m 23 now, but I do look back and realize that I was an insanely angry child. I often felt like the world had cheated me out of something. My peers so so different and I struggled to understand why. Now I know. I was diagnosed two years ago with Aspergers Syndrome, though my mother always claimed to have known I was on the Autistic Spectrum.

    Again, thank you so much for creating this blog. I relate to so much of what you post. Have a good week, Daccari. 🙂

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