People don’t understand my limits when I feel too overwhelmed at the end of a long work week to go out on a Friday. They take things personally when I decline their invitations.
I used to get caught up in upsetting them. One one day, like a light bulb, I realized that I was not responsible for their feelings.
Taking on too many things is not good for my health. Social activities, although enjoyable, are very tiresome to me especially if they take place in a busy environment.
I may choose to stay in, but that doesn’t mean that I didn’t want to go out.
I’ve learned that limiting activities that drain my brain, especially during and around busy work weeks, is something that I have to do. If I don’t conserve my energy at home, I won’t have the energy to do my job.
My job can be stressful but it’s actually a very fun job and I enjoy it.
I always want to be fresh and ready to do my best at work. That means taking care of myself – mentally and physically, eating healthy, and getting plenty of rest. I need to be sharp in order to work.
I have to say “no” to people. Some people get tired of hearing “no” over and over. I’ve lost friends over this. It sucks to loose friends but my health has to come first.
Why do our parents teach us that “no” is a dirty word?
I think “no” is a wonderfully empowering word. Learning to say “no” has set me free.
No – I won’t do it anymore – not if it’s not good for me.
Learning to say no was the best gift I could possibly give myself this holiday season. This year, I hope that I can somehow give this gift to you.
With love and thanks,