“You’re Obsessed with Autism”

“You’re obsessed with your Autism. Ever since your diagnosis you talk about it all the time. You never spoke about these problems before.”

Keep in mind NONE of these people know about my blog. Imagine how obsessed they would think I was if they knew I had an Autism blog and contributed to a popular disability website. These are things that certain people will never understand.

I want to help. People should not have to suffer in silence.

I never know what to say in face to face conversations with friends and loved ones who doubt.

Finally after years of suffering in silence I am talking, speaking up and trying to speak out. Face to face the words never come.

My entire life I was “sick”. Doctors could not find anything physically wrong with me. They told my mother it was all in my head and that I needed to toughen up.

Finally I have an answer. The truth – and it feels liberating.

As a child I was tired of being looked at like I was crazy and told that I complained too much so I stopped complaining.  Nobody believed me anyway.

Just because I stopped talking about my discomfort does not mean it went away.

I still lived with constant headaches, nausea, and even physical pain – the more severe symptoms of my Sensory Processing Disorder. Before I would suffer, pretending everything was alright, smiling through the pain.

“You used to be such a positive person.”

Now that I advocate for myself and speak up with I am uncomfortable or not feeling well I am a “negative person”.

Why does this stigma still exist? I’m not trying to be negative, I’m sharing my world with you or asking for help.

Nobody wants to know how you are really feeling.

People have accused me of using my diagnosis to get out of things, but really the things I try to get away from now are things that have caused me pain my entire life.

People can be down right nasty when you try to paint Autism in a positive light. They feel as if you are dismissing their struggle, but I feel like there is already enough information on the internet talking about all the hardships and problems. If you don’t know where to look that is all you’ll find.

My diagnosis is a little paper that says “You’re not crazy – yes your body does have a mind of it’s own. Love yourself.” I chose not to get hung up on the negative and try to always focus on the positive.

“Anna is an exceptionally bright woman on the Autism Spectrum she suffers from [. . .] ” Let’s not worry about the list that comes next. I can’t live my life drowning in negativity.

I’m not a special snowflake. I am just a girl trying to live an authentic life while loving and accepting herself – Autism and all.

 

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82 thoughts on ““You’re Obsessed with Autism””

    1. theyre practically a myth.

      ive spent my life on a quest for the rarest species of all: this “sane” person implied by all the myriad definitions of crazy. my conclusion is that there are only different kinds of crazy.

      every sane person is probably a closeted crazy person. they may not know what their deal is, but put them in a sitution where it comes out, and youll see.

      authenticity i suppose is something to strive for. but if above-average self-awareness is a prerequisite, of course its going to be rare.

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    2. I completely agree with you Anna. You are spot on I get it all the time ” You weren’t like this before you were diagnosed”. Actually I was but I can admit it now and there’s are reasons. Before I was just weird. I am still weird but I don’t care, if they can’t handle that, it’s their problem not mine. There are 1500 people in my office. About 5 have admitted they are autistic in private. I’m the only one who is trying to ” blow the lid off it” it’s quite liberating .

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  1. The reality is that most people cannot handle complexity. They are conditioned to function on simple narratives. Hence, the world is full of simple categories – stupid/intelligent; weak/strong; good/bad; liberal/conservative; capitalist/communist; atheist/religious nut case, etc. We put people and things in boxes from day #1. Even the autism caregiver community is not immune to these traps. To be fair that is how brain functions as well. The opposite tendency needs to be carefully and consciously cultivated and this is the hard part.

    Good news is that awareness is growing. There is more information out there now. We have more tolerance and understanding now than before. I see it in myself and hence it must be happening elsewhere too!

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  2. Thank you for your perspective once again 🙂 I like that you prefer to focus on the positives of your Autism. I try to do that also with my son, whilst still acknowledging and accepting his challenges. I love his Autism. I don’t wish it away because it would do no good. I love it as part of the whole of who he is. A beautiful, healthy, curious 4 yr old boy, who is developing and unfolding at his own pace. We all need unconditional acceptance. I love that you love yourself as you are now. You have my support on that 🙂

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  3. People feel better about things that are easy. Talking about pain, isolation, being misunderstood, is not ‘fun’.
    People have conversations that mean nothing all the time. It isn’t you who didn’t know what to say. It’s their inability to listen to you, just because their brains are set to all the meaninglessness of their conversations.
    Asperger’s is just a label. Wouldn’t be surprised if it turned out that the deepest philosophers of all times all ‘suffered from’ it. Or were blessed with it?

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  4. Beautiful. My mom thinks I’m obsessed with my daughters diagnosis (and mine of something unrelated). It’s just so wonderful to have a framework with which to look at how her little mind has been working all this time. Beautifully said.

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  5. So there’s a massive self-help section in the book store so that people can examine their lives, learn about themselves and make improvements. If you are autistic then finding out everything about it, talking about it and making changes is exactly the same thing. Self help.

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  6. Yes! I could have written this post (except that you did a much better job than I would have lol) 😊

    I spend a lot of time talking with my mom and partner. Although I try not to beat the topic to death, it does come up quite frequently, because if, for example, mom wants to know how I’m doing and what I’ve been up to lately, my Asperger’s/autism research and blog reading/writing will assuredly enter into my answer somewhere.

    Although no one has said anything to me about talking about it too much, I can almost hear them say something similar, so somewhere in my monologue (lol 😊), I work in a comment similar to “I know it must seem like I talk about this a lot; it’s just that I can’t describe how monumental of a discovery/event/revelation this has been for me. It’s a complete game-changer, like being finally released from s type of prison!” or something like that. 😊

    That way, in case they were thinking something along the lines of “she’s obsessed!”, but refraining from saying anything out of the desire to be polite, I’ve done something to head it off at the pass, a preventive measure. Of course, they might still think that; there’s nothing I can do to stop them from thinking that way, but at least they might have more understanding, which is the best I can do/hope for at this point. 😊

    I’m so sorry that you’ve gotten comments like this. No one should have to hear anything like that. I hope I never do, but if I ever do (which I imagine is just a matter of time), at least I know that I’m not alone. Thank you in advance for that. Your post is excellent ❤️

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  7. You have certainly helped me. I knew very little about Autism and what I did know turned out to be wrong. I have a grand child who will turn 1 next mo. I wanted to know everything about a child’s development from conception till 1 so I read everything I could get my hands on. I have done the same thing about Autism once I read one of your posts. It is a father thing. Do not concern yourself with what others say or think. Nothing can open a closed mind. You keep doing what helps you and that will spill over to others who need help. I am proud of you and feel free to direct those negative people to me. HA !!

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    1. Thank you Marshall, my friend! I truly appreciate you. “You keep doing what helps you and that will spill over to others who need help.” – and this is my EXACT hope. One day I realized this and I had to keep typing. Its hard some days because I have a full time job. I want to change the world – small ripples putting information out there. I am encouraging more Aspies to write because if we all speak up that is a LOT more voices. Almost all of my problems come from ignorance and the only cure for ignorance is truth. Fortunately I have PLENTY of truth to go around. LOL!

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  8. A friend thinks my OCD is… a term used but a harmful term if that makes sense. In effect not a real illness. Thats’ what i got from one conversation with him anyway, and once he told me that since i was diagnosed with OCD he thinks that OCD itself became my obsession. Its actually pretty hurtful to hear these things. And it’s a positive thing when i talk about it! Or even obsess about it! ‘cos i ceertainly doesn’t feel like actual obsessions feel!

    I have since texted them saying things like OK i know I used to go on a bit but F@ck it, i was right.

    Keep on fighting, and sharing and talking your blog is great!

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    1. I have shades of OCD with my Autism. I am very grateful that I can be so overly logical (thanks to my Autism). People don’t understand the compulsions (that nagging you can’t just turn off) or that you sometimes can control yourself. I give into the harmless ones because they bring me joy, even though my rituals may not be practical to others. They are not meaningless to me. I don’t mention it unless someone catches me doing something strange, but even then I never know what to say. I have not studied OCD (yet) so pardon my ignorance on any terminology. Just something my PsyD told me to be mindful of.

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      1. Yes, OCD is often a secondary diagnosis. I think, and turns out, it even is with me! Psychosis was mistaken for OCD.

        I have to resist the urdge to attend to harm (violent mostly) thoughts. That’s the OCD, but i also have to understand my small rituals too, like what you speak of :). For instance being extremely concerned with body symmetry or even biting my nails till they bleed. Other things too when they pop up i am able to be aware of them and try to refocus on what i’m doing even if it’s in the background of my mind. Minfulness helps here.

        🙂

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  9. as i said in another comment, people really dont want to understand autism. i dont mean this to sound paranoid– there are lots of exceptions. but its a typical stage when society becomes slowly aware of a new challenge– people didnt want to learn about cancer either– or aids, they just wanted these things to go away- someone fix it, dont bother me.

    autism is something most people are ill-equipped to deal with, so they dont even want to hear about it. especially if someone is “high-functioning” enough for them to presume its just something “in their head.” its really backwards to think that someone is bipolar, and thats real– but autism is something a person made up about themselves. yet ive even dated people working from that premise.

    once youre willing to presume that someone is making something up about themselves, you definitely dont want to hear anymore about it. stop telling me that story– i dont care how much reading youve done– this is all about that story you made up.

    theyre one step away from plugging their ears and saying “lalala, cant hear you!” ive encountered that with family, with exes, and with friends. some even want to learn, but then when the real chance comes, they find some distraction and run to it. its like a reality distortion field. if you get used to it (and that means more or less giving up) then it can be funny to watch. your blog gives me hope, anna. keep doing what youre doing– the world needs more of it.

    dont ever retire from this until youre well and truly sick of doing it. i hope that wont be for a long, long time. p.s. ive been the same way about programming since i was a little kid. if you become a teacher, or hide away in an academic office writing books, no one thinks anything of it. but if you try to share the same things with everyday people, its an “obsession.” call it a “passion,” then its fair. nothing wrong with being passionate about something. its a victimless (non-)crime. youd think we dont ever talk about other things! (yet on my programming blog today theres a post about forgiving yourself.)

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    1. “once youre willing to presume that someone is making something up about themselves, you definitely dont want to hear anymore about it. stop telling me that story– i dont care how much reading youve done– this is all about that story you made up.” – YES YES YES!!!! This is A HUGE problem! Thank you for articulating tit.

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  10. Yes! Very well said. It’s so true-people don’t really want to know how you are feeling. They are frightened by the complexity and so many would rather discuss surface things than issues of any depth. But, we need this information out there! Autism needs a voice beyond the tragedy too many have tried to paint. I think you are a great example of one of those voices. Keep on keeping on. We need you.

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  11. LOL, I laughed when I saw this post. As a mom with an autistic son I TOTALLY GET IT. I knew he had autism as soon as he was born and it took me 19 years to convince the “professionals”. I am also a mental health professional who studied autism back in the late 70s so I knew immediately. Can you imagine the fight I had to put up for 19 years? And him of course too. He was given all sorts of pull out special services in school but no one ever understood his needs. Yes there world is becoming kind of autism crazy but the way I see it, our systems have failed many people including myself. I see these symptoms in my self and in his father and his brother and in my father. They affect your ability to function at work and in social situations. It is very limiting if not understood and handled tenderly. I love your blog, keep up the great work.

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    1. My mom knew back in the 60s, kept asking doctors if there was a mild form of autism. They told her she was a bad mother and sent her home crying. She had absolutely no support, she was alone in her perspective, and she was right.

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      1. that’s amazing Janika that she knew all the way back then. What a smart woman! Yes, the doctors were cruel to me too. One said I was ruining him life by expecting him to develop faster when he was not talking at 4years old and still in diapers the pediatrician said he was just a slow learner

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  12. Sometimes I wonder if i’m using Autism as an excuse too often.
    You write my defence soo well. I have to keep telling myself that Yes – I really do feel uncomfortable, its not me being a hypercondriac.
    I’ve come a long way. Who knew that I could feel confident AND relaxed. Not just confident and on edge, without knowing why.

    Thanks for your post 🙂

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  13. When did you receive your diagnosis? I’d probably know this if I was a better reader. I’m guessing 2 – 4 years ago. We seem to be on identical paths. If you substitute autism spectrum with Tourette’s Syndrome, you ask all the same questions as I do. I’m finding your blog posts enlightening (in understanding myself). Thanks.

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  14. Hey, I got something for you. It’ not you. You know this. It was never you. The problem was the people around you. You strummed my pain again with you fingers on this wordpress instrument. Here is a truth that explains a diagnosis that 98% of people have. They must doubt. People are blindly obsessed with doubt. They saw you one way, and then your found out the truth, and when you explained it, even with a certificate, four doctors at your side, a twitter halo over your head explaining the final results, and a dog at your side with a human frown saying, “These things are true,” they would STILL think you’re crazy. They can’t deal with the fact of how they must have spoken about you privately to themselves and/or possibly with others; only to find out they were being jerks from head to to. They CANNOT BE WRONG. Humble pie taste nasty to those who mush believe tier own narrative at all costs. Personally, I don’t know you, but I’m pissed that anyone didn’t listen to you from the start. I’m pissed that people didn’t take notice of obvious signs that you were … what’s that word that people desire so much but hate to be? uh… oh yeah UNIQUE. You were not normal to them and thus it this “autism thing” cannot be true. EVERY human being has a level of autism. How else can most people not have empathy, or sympathy. “It’s just like that,” I guess. I’m sorry. I wrote too much. I just… I just can’t stand this kind of bubble around people who thing everyone else needs to be like them, think like them, and behave like them to be “normal”. I think YOU should start your own youtube. Just do what I do. Read what you have posted. If not, I understand. I honestly do, understand. Thank you for reading.

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  15. If someone talks about something that is considered publicly appealing then no one complains. Talk about something that makes the public uncomfortable and they don’t like it and want it to be hushed up. I hate the double standard. Who is the person who gets to decide what is appealing and what is not?

    Keep bringing Autism to light! People NEED to know!

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  16. I am glad that I am not the only one who has gone through the ignorance and I will also say hatred of autism discrimination. When in doubt, LISTEN to me. That is all I ask. Too many judges and too few ears. Thank you for your post and blog. The culture is simplistic yet it overthinks things. Interesting how the human brain works.

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  17. Invisible illnesses are tough. I’ve also gone through the ‘you complain too much’ thing which caused me to shut up and get on with things. In a way, this was positive as I’m now good at getting things done even when I’m sick. But it also means I tend to drive myself too hard and need a Dr’s permission before I’ll stop, accept I’m ill and do what I need to get better again. I guess I haven’t found the balance yet 🙂

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  18. Love, love this 😍. People don’t understand that it does consume our thoughts because it affects our daily lives. Also neurotypicals still live with this ideal that you should cover your emotions, even though there’s so much proof how damaging it is. The world isn’t full of rainbows and sunshines you’re not being negative if you talk about your troubles you’re a healthy human being! 😃

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  19. Anna, I am proud of you, and proud of your way to find comfort. Wow, girl people like you changed my life a couple years ago and changed my career choice from fashion design to psychology, because I , like you want to help people to feel better and more comfortable in a society that not always behave like it should. I’m sorry if my English is not so good, it is not my first language. Loads of love for you, and keep your good job!

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  20. “Nobody wants to know how you are feeling.”
    I can imagine people replying, “That’s not true, I do care about your feeling.” And they may be right but their way of caring is to somehow belittle your problem and get you to do things, which in their opinion is best for you.
    And when something terribly bad does happen, they start wondering why and how come they didn’t see it coming. Will people ever learn?
    Great post, thanks!

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  21. I can relate to this even though my story isn’t about sensory issues. I never had psychical symptoms, I would express to my mother and to everyone else how different I am and I hated being told I was normal. No one listened and I kept being told what I was going through was normal and even a counselor thought I had to toughen up and no one could figure out what was wrong with me except I had a language delay. I did have other diagnoses like ADD, dyspraxia, language processing disorder, cluttering. I might have been told I was normal to help make me feel better but that was very invalidating and showed lack of understanding. Even my school principal thought I had to toughen up. When you look so normal and look like everyone else, everyone assumes you’re normal and that your behavior and your problems are a choice. They even see what you are going through lot of kids go through but they don’t realize the affects of it it does for you and how you process it all and they don’t realize that the children are specifically targeting the individual. It all looks normal to them because they are normal and never been different before.

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    1. Toughen up – that phrase makes my arm hairs stand on end… my family members said it a lot, so did my teachers. I guess coming from my mother it did me good. My sister was babied and did not turn out as well – and that girl (although she does not know it) is SMART. On one end I hate being told that – more because now I feel like I am toughened up. The other one that gets me is “you’re not trying hard enough” when I am trying my very hardest. Certain simple things like timing in conversation trip me up. My brain is working overdrive but still I make simple mistakes. Because I can be extremely skilled at complex tasks people say things like – “you are too smart for this” & “you are not trying hard enough”. On the inside I am dying because my best is perceived as laziness or not trying. They can not comprehend how difficult this is for me.

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  22. My son has a wonderful doctor who wrote a letter to his school which was included in his IEP .The school needed to recognize the difference between excuses and explanations.And accommodation does not mean my child wants to do it his way.He isn’t being noncompliant refusing to do what is asked.And if he says he can’t ..
    He can’t.

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  23. Thank you. When I am dealing with suffering one way is to share it, make it visible. I’m now “the negative angry” person. When I was dissociated, self medicating, and being abused I was “happy.” Not on the inside. I feel a lot more loving of myself and others being able to HANDLE reality, validate it for others and myself. The book The Happiness Trap helped me lot and self compassion.

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      1. You might like Things may go horribly terribly wrong better, it’s the same thinking but more for anxiety. Both come from ACT therapy, the only one that ever helped me. Basically how you and how things are how you are and how things are. You don’t have put life on hold until you’re some psychological mystery called “normal.” It works very well even for persons with schizophrenia. It’s about value driven living, not thoughts and emotions that sabotage us which get worse when we try to fight them with positive talk etc. The Compassionate Mind is a book that really helped me with understanding the role of oxytocin and mental emotional health. I like the science being explained and also human evolution.

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  24. Hi Anna, I take it you’re the Anna mentioned late in your blog above? (But hey, I could just as easily be wrong, wouldn’t be the first time, nór the last. 😉 )

    Just found your blog, and it actually makes my world look a little bit lighter. (which is great, cuz it was almost pitchblack)

    I was diagnosed as being an autistic 2 years ago, at the still young age of 62.
    My middle sis was with me, and she immediately said it all was clear to HER now, cuz she’s got a client who’se autistic, and I seem to have lots of his characteristics.
    And she assured me nóthing would change, I’d still just be Jos with my typical behavior, just as shé and my other sis would stay themselves with théir typical behavior.

    And yes, I became obsessive about autism too, simply because I had never even thought of autism …. hence I was dropped in a world I don’t know, and out of a world I didn’t completeley fit in, but then again, who does, right? (at least I knéw that world because I thought I belonged to it)

    But I can’t tell the outside world éverything is difficult for mé now, they don’t want to hear it, because for THEM nothing has changed. (so whý am I trying to engage them in little bits and pieces of mý world, they ask. They simply have had enough (one sis and I see each other once a week, the other one on family-parties and such) of being more careful with what they say … it’s boring and tiring.

    Oh gosh, how I recognize lots in your blog.
    -People (well, mainly one, but an important one to me) telling you you’re obsessed with it.
    -People telling me I used to work hard at taking júst that one step further to fit in, but now I’m using autism as an excuse for not having to do that anymore …. whereas I really shóuld, keeps me sharp, and other people value it. (she means it in the bést possible sense of the world … she only has my wellbeing at heart)
    -And maybe one of the worst things (and I wonder if that happened/happens to YOU as well?) …. you get told you should be
    happy, because yóu are only a light case of being autistic, there are people who are much worse off. And I think: “You say you understand, but you have no clue, nó clue at all. (rest assured: like yóu I too try to ditch all negativity)

    Knowing I’m not alone in this sure helps, thanks a gazillion Anna.

    (I sure hope you haven’t noticed I’m very longwinded. 😉 😉 )

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    1. I’m very glad you found me and even happier to brighten your world. Unfortunately I understand everything you said above in a very personal way. My family doesn’t care about Autism because they are all VERY Aspie like and think Aspie things are TOTALLY normal – and guess they are in some ways. ” you get told you should be
      happy, because yóu are only a light case of being autistic, there are people who are much worse off.” – Yeah I get that too, because I am able to suffer in silence, act normal, and don’t complain. When I do speak up or start to stim or act a bit more Autistic because something becomes unbearable – then I am complaining too much or being childish (when I stim). I’ve learned these people are not the ones I can talk about my Autism with. I hate it because it seems to be ALL of the people who are closest to me. They are stuck on the sitgmas and can’t see “the bad / Autism” in me. Really they have no idea what Autism is and are not interested enough to learn. I don’t know what else to do but keep things to myself once someone makes it so obvious they are NOT interested.

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  25. It’s a lot better to smile through knowledge and sharing than through pain.
    It doesn’t hurt to be positive.

    Okay, those were the only semi-clever responses that I had.

    I couldn’t agree more. Diagnosis and knowledge is a key that opens a door. You can decide whether to take the stairs up or down. Just saying words doesn’t make things better, of course. Those words are a start — or a reflection of a path already traveled.

    Sometimes the topic sounds negative, but the story might be about overcoming the pain and improving. I was a little confused at first when I wrote my last piece (What a Shame, https://amongsthumans.com/1157). I thought I was being positive, discussing how something that battered me in my autistic ignorance, is so much more manageable with my diagnosis and knowledge. But I still receive (well-meaning) comments offline from those who know me that wanted to help me learn to overcome this problem neurotypically — a problem that is much better now, thank you, by dint of my effort.

    In any case, I relish what you have written: this time, and always.

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  26. I so identify with what you wrote. I’ve been told I’ve got autism on the brain. Well, it’s gonna take a lot more than that comment to shut me up. I have a story to tell. Folks would not want to be around me if I am deterred in any way from pursuing my passion. HA!

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  27. You are using the wrong label. You are not “obsessed” you are (pick one).

    Advocate
    Crusader
    Educator
    Outspoken
    Promoter
    Champion
    Voice for the silent
    Provocateur – you make people question their assumptions/beliefs
    Advisor
    Debunker of myths

    I shall leave the list at 10 a nice neat number. Don’t ever stop your blogging because for people like me you are the glow of a warm wise woman’s hearth in what feels like a dark, silent, scary & isolating forest called “post diagnosis”.

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  28. I think you’re pretty amazing. It takes strength to dare be yourself when you don’t fit into society’s mould.

    I have chosen the easiest path (for me): being a chameleon. I am myself at home, and mostly myself with my family and close friends. At work or with acquaintances, I’m… in disguise. I hide behind a smile. I won’t initiate small talk, but I will small talk back. I still won’t use white lies, but I’ve learned to deviate from a question to be both pleasant and honest. That’s what people want, and that’s how they leave me in peace.

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    1. I understand this approach completely. It can be quite exhausting, not just because I am involved in conversation, but because of all the mental hoops I jump through recombining words until I arrive at a formulation that is both truthful and — I hope — satisfies the other person’s need for words. It’s often so much easier to remain silent, until I’m called out for being so quiet or unresponsive.

      I fantasize of a life where we didn’t have to do this, to perform as trained animals in a carnival. There’s a reason why circuses are going out of business. It’s cruel to make other sentient beings act in this manner, no matter how many peanuts you feed them.

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  29. I think you SHOULD be obsessed with your autism until and unless it gets to the place where it becomes second nature most of the time to just deal with things. Don’t listen to other people!

    Especially when it explains so many things for you. Explanations help, even with pain. Uncertainty makes pain worse, and being ignored by doctors, or told it’s somehow all in your head is the stupidest thing I’ve ever come across in the medical field (I have CFS – I know how that works for a different reason than you do).

    You don’t need confirmation from me – but find people you can obssess WITH, and you’ll be fine with who you are (just try not to let it be the only thing in your life all the time).

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      1. I will tell you one thing and that is watching your child be scared , and not being able to calm himself and then lash his anger onto the ones that love him the most is by far the most heart wrenching thing I have ever experienced. I’m just coming to terms that I don’t have the magic to make him at ease enough to show him the things that’s I love to do. He has never felt any other way than he has and society hasn’t had a chance to make him feel different and shameful for just being born the way he his . I say tomato and you say toMata but in the end we still have salsa.

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    1. Dit it totally change your life, FNM?
      And, if that’s a not too personal question (just ignore it if it is), what were some of your ‘worst’ sickness-symptoms?
      I’m asking cuz I’m trying to make sense of my own diagnosis, and I’m doing a poor job at it. But évery time I read about a symptom I can relate to, I feel relieved for a moment, so I’m gathering as many similar symptoms as I can. I know, doesn’t make sense. 😉 )

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      1. At the moment it’s very much a “work in progress” because I was only formally diagnosed last month after discovering I was autistic in August 2016.

        My worst sickness symptoms were probably anxiety related – I’m still going through everything to try to make sense of it all.

        Makes perfect sense that you’re collecting things you relate to – I’m very much doing that. 🙂

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