I Want to Encourage Everyone to Write

Writing is therapy and can be a key to better self understanding. We all have stories to tell and lessons learned. When we share we give others the opportunity to learn.

Write – even if you never share your world with anyone.

Pour your soul out onto the pages (digital or hand written). Let your thoughts come to life. Often I am surprised at what comes out when I am behind a keyboard. There is a flow when I am comfortable and relaxed.

In face to face interactions I am not nearly as eloquent. Sometimes I am just struggling to keep pace with a conversation – my brain tends to save information to process later. This is inefficient when speaking to people. By the time I am ready to contribute often the topic has already been changed.

My social differences are often misunderstood by my peers. I don’t need to look at people when they are talking to me – and listen best if I don’t try to. People often think I am rude, daydreaming, or not paying attention. They don’t understand that my brain works differently.

I started this blog out of frustration. When everywhere I go everyone misunderstands or underestimates me. If I tell people I am Autistic they say things like “you seem to have grown out of it” or “you don’t seem autistic”.

The picture they have of Autism is one that was sold in movies and on the internet.

It is a boy who cannot speak, an adult who may never live on their own, or someone who bangs their head against walls (I do this but not hard enough to hurt much).

An attractive woman who appears to have it all together is NOT what they imagine when you say “Autism” and they can’t easily adjust the pictures in their minds.

Neurotypicals tend to have more of a “hive mind” than Aspies do. They tend to follow popular opinions and are often hesitant to stray from what is considered “common knowledge”.

I can only see one fix for this problem – change what is “common knowledge”.

Aspies are wired to be individuals we don’t care about what others think – unless we are taught to care what others think (then we can become overly eager to please). We tend to be very analytical – sometime to the point of over analyzing.

Many of us thrive in solitude and are often accused of being “antisocial” and other negative terms.

People have a hard time accepting what they don’t understand. That is why it is so important that we all share our stories. Everyone has a story to tell.

Do something with yours – even if it is all you’ve got. Maybe you will change the world.


#SheCantBeAutistic #ActuallyAutistic #AnonymouslyAutistic #InvisibleAutism


44 thoughts on “I Want to Encourage Everyone to Write”

  1. I agree that I find writing a great release though I don’t post everything that’s fallen out of my head. I have 10000 word unfinished stories that will never see the light of day, mainly because the characters are based on real life but it was a relief to get those difficult feelings out of my head. I love reading your blog, you always have some truth to say. Take Care D.

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  2. I’ve been following your advice for years before I even heard it. I simply cannot not write, I may not actually ‘write’ every day, but I am doing something connected to writing every single day because I am unable to back away from it.
    In one way or another it is all to get the voices out of my head.

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  3. Writing has been the only way I can communicate effectively. People don’t seem to understand how hard it is for me talk in person, because I appear so normal. It’s frustrating. Nobody can do that when I’m sitting at my keyboard.

    Thank you for writing this.

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  4. if you get someone to write, can someone get you code? 🙂 it depends on whether you could do an off-topic post or not. sometimes i do posts on my blog that arent part of the main theme (your theme is autism, mine is fig.)

    if you did a post on coding, we could “meet” there whenever its convenient (a couple times a week?) and exchange information about it. other people could participate if they had questions or wanted to chime in.

    when you were done, you could write an update on what you learned. i know this is a stretch, and i know theres never time in the day– which is why everything ive designed, ive designed around people with little free time.

    the best way to do it is to try out the software, but its designed to be easy enough to just “chat” about– like a 2-way lesson. main thing you need is python– if you have a mac it is already installed; can walk you through if you have windows.

    the goal isnt to become a professional developer, but to understand the subject. for all i know, thats something you get already.

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      1. Anna, me too, but I programmed professionally in a bunch of different languages; i.e., never in HTML. I used to host my own website http://community-info.org on my PC, but when me and my wife moved out to the country it became a lot harder, and eventually impossible. My wife used to host her own site on iPower, so I moved her back on there, and made my website a subdomain of hers (still accessible by its own domain name). My PC is running Windows 7, so I was hosting on IIS 7.5 and wrote a lot of the site scripts in ASP. Now that I’m being hosted on iPower, I’m running on Apache on a Linux server; i.e., that broke a lot of my stuff. I got the main page to run (my juke box being the really important part to me) and several of the pages it links to on my own site, including my own blog. If you goto my home page and look at the accordion menu on the left side, there is a “Blogs” link. My blogs aren’t interactive, but they are about different topics I had in mind at the time I wrote them.

        codeinfig, in my blog I have a series of pages (they all link to each other, besides being listed in my blog list) about an emotions detection program I was working on, and just started working on. Part of this project was to get experience in Python (I’d never touched it before this project). When I got home last night, I found my PC powered off (my cat must’ve jumped on it when I was away, and hit the power button), cutting short a haartraining session (to create a new haarcascade smiles xml file) that had been running for a week. I’d set the haartraining session to use 25 stages, and it was working on the 25th stage (0 through 24) when cut short, so I went with the data that already had been processed to create smiles.xml but it isn’t finding any smiles (haarcascade_smile.xml, which comes with the opencv package does find some smiles, but it doesn’t work very well). I’ll blog about this latest attempt this weekend, and see if there is anything I can do to fix smiles.xml, and start a new (and improved) haartraining session.

        You can go directly to my emotions blog at http://community-info.org/NoFeelings.html You can keep clicking on the arrow that points to the right (at the bottom of the web page) to goto the next blog.

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        1. Jenny McCarthy. A blast from the past. 🙂

          I bought a Dell Laptop today from a guy offering it on a classified website – Gumtree, based in UK – and my goal with it is to get Linux on it. To do that I would have to spend a day with the blokes I met from IT Meetups to get it installed. (I’m none the wiser)

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          1. gizzajob, the next page features Daryl Hanaah; click on the right pointing arrow at the bottom of the page. When you get into the pages I wrote with video, I’m the “featured” person. BTW, I’m running Debian 8.5 on my Raspberry Pi and on a VirtualBox (on my Windows PC). I used to run Puppy Linux as my main OS, and Red Hat 9 before that.

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  5. You’re talking my language!!! My stories are like the children I never had. I give birth to the words, nurture them with my editing, and then click on the “send” button where I set them free like birds leaving the nest.

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  6. Writing cleanses the soul, clears the mind, calms your fears, relieves stress, clarifies your opinions, but most of all brings everything together in organization so you can work out the precipice hanging over you. I can’t count the number of times I’ve started a poem or story depressed and lonely only for it to turn happy, hopeful, and healing by the time I’m just a few lines or a few paragraphs into it. I always look back and wonder, “Where did that come from?” From deep within, buried so far beneath the realm of everyday living, a little sparkle shines. We notice, ignore it, move on without giving it a second glance. But our inner eye can’t help but return and fines the sheen of light again. What is it? Why is it? There’s a reason diamonds are hidden beneath the earth. Find and write your diamond … bring about your own rebirth in prose and verse. Thank you, my friend, for releasing my diamond for this day, Deborah

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  7. I was a Social Worker/Social Service worker. I told the people I worked with about the value of writing all the time. Just keeping a journal helps people an immense amount. Being creative also helps to manage the stress you experience. I do both regularly. It helps a great deal.
    Just knowing what other people with “disorders” (Sorry, can’t think of any other way to say it) helps me a great deal. I am considered disabled, but you can’t see it from the outside. I have several mental health disorders. I believe you are doing a good job at bringing out problems some of us will never understand. Thank You.

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  8. Yes, yes, yes! I completely agree. I find writing challenging at times because demand avoidance and exec dysfunction can get in the way so much, but it’s SUCH a powerful thing – both for personal catharsis and therapy, AND for getting a story out there to others.

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  9. Yep this is why I started writing a blog again. Writing has always been cathartic, a sort of therapy for me, and when I started writing this blog I was dealing with some heavy emotions that I didn’t know how to process. I think it helps to get them out there.

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  10. I just LOVE you. I have really bad IBS, and Type II Diabetes. Yet, in this post, more than any, you described my mind perfectly. You make me think I might be autistic, and if I am, I LOVE IT. Hell, you’re cool enough to make autism popular. Be careful. 🙂

    Oh writing. I do it. Short stories about 14 pages average and a few long ones that reach into the 7 to 15 pages. I got a novel I’m not confident in, but I wrote what was in my head and when I do write, I feel FREE. All the hells of reality fade away and I can just let my mind explode through this keyboard. Take care you lovely Aspie. I’m sure you’re attractive physically, too. Make sure your loved ones kiss your brain. waves fingers creepy-like

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  11. Diversity is something precious among people. Wouldn’t it be awful if we had to spend our time only among the chatty ones among us. The quiet ones make their own contributions and the different viewpoints are essential.

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  12. I hear .. that’s why I write about chronic depression and pain.. I want the world to know it’s a sickness like any other sickness.. and it needs to be made aware of people are suffering still in silence and in shame.. thank you for sharing so much..

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  13. Dear Anne,

    The Lord bless you. I love your posts. You live out that idea of cathartic words in writing. I wanted to let you know that I am a teacher and getting kids to write blogs for that very reason. Yours is one that I want them to follow and be inspired. That is because you do. Keep it up.

    Thank you,


    On Wed, Jan 18, 2017 at 1:48 AM, Anonymously Autistic wrote:

    > anonymouslyautistic posted: “Writing is therapy and can be a key to better > self understanding. We all have stories to tell and lessons learned. When > we share we give others the opportunity to learn. Write – even if you never > share your world with anyone. Pour your soul out onto the” >

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  14. I definitely agree with this. I struggle with writing autism-oriented posts, but I write about my life, which can’t be separated from my autism, so I like to think my blog as a whole fits under the umbrella of the idea. 😅 I’ve been blogging for over seven years where I’m at now, and I’m glad I found your blog—and that it’s at least somewhat active/recent—because it’s so hard for me to find blogs by #actuallyautistic people who keep up with them. You seem to have some autistic repliers in the comments who have blogs, though, so fingers crossed!


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