The Secret to Fighting Anxiety (Now!)

Life is hard and I have pretty intense chronic anxiety. Still I don’t let that stop me from doing what needs to be done.

It’s funny to me when people praise me, call me strong, brave, and all these other names. I’m literally just doing what I have to do. I have to push myself or my life would be in a bad place. Always pushing even when my anxiety is nagging ugly words in the back of my mind.

So what is the secret? How do I stop the anxiety from talking over?

I stop and I breathe. I close my eyes and breathe while focusing on the darkness. I may put ear plugs in or have head phones on while I do this. I block everything out and am alone with myself.

Safe in the darkness I ask myself – are you safe? What is happening right now? Is your worry something that hasn’t even happened yet? Then stop it. What’s happening now? 

I push forward but keep asking – What’s happening now? How about now? Now? Now? Now? Right now.

Sometimes I may repeat the word now over and over again in my head. It is a reminder to stay calm and that now everything is alright.

 

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29 thoughts on “The Secret to Fighting Anxiety (Now!)”

  1. I can really relate to this.
    I have at times talked to people who has said those things, like “you’re so strong, such a fighter”. It doesn’t matter if it’s about having anxiety or being homeless. People always think it has something to do with strength. As if I’ve taken on a challenge, and I’m extraordinary for going through with it. And it feels so wrong getting told this. Because to me, it has nothing to do with strength. No extraordinary ability at all. It’s nothing more than basic survival instinct combined with an unfortunate situation. “Oh, you were having a panic attack but still made dinner afterwards. You’re so strong” No I’m not. I was having a bad time, but I was still hungry. That’s how life is. If you break your leg, then you go to work in a wheelchair for a few weeks, and no one would call you brave for not staying in bed the rest of the time the cast is on. Just unlucky.

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  2. Tell me about it.

    I am just trying to live a ‘normal’ life and everyone thinks I’m blinking Superman. Now I’m at an Adobe Illustrator class that’s on today and tomorrow; next week I have Photoshop Training and the week after InDesign training. But I’m just trying to find a career path, like everyone else on the planet.

    When you have Autism you do get stressed out so easily. Thankfully, the teacher I have has a son with Asperger’s and he is understanding. Four years ago I took Sign Language classes, but only lasted two classes as the pace was too quick and the teacher I had, who is deaf herself, wasn’t the most tolerant.

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  3. I have a powerful level of anxiety as well. Pushing through it is so tough, you an drain yourself of all mental energy and be too weak to do what you needed to do. That is when one must push forward, beyond that mental exhaustion and win one battle, in an unending war with yourself. I do it often. I need to record for youtube. Takes nearly 9 to 12 restarts, as well as the 5 minutes of mouth stretching, drinking water, then maybe a warm drink, and sighing into my hands before I finally try to talk. Though I push hard, my voice tends to be weak; until I get going and find myself once more. I’m sure you go through this often with many facets in life. Just know, you are not lone, and while you inspire me with your regaling, I hope my comments are well-enough to inspire you, or at least, give you that tiny push. I hope others can find something within my replies. I’m starting to think my replies should be blog posts. Hmmm. Maybe not. Seems vulture-y.

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  4. Thank you! reading your request of yourself ‘am I safe’ … I felt so tender and even teary. And the tip about closing eyes and even ears – reducing sensory input, bringing comfort and presence to yourself. I’d love the world to be filled with people who practice this

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  5. By the grace of God we go. On Mon, Jan 30, 2017 at 12:16 AM Anonymously Autistic wrote:

    > anonymouslyautistic posted: “Life is hard and I have pretty intense > chronic anxiety. Still I don’t let that stop me from doing what needs to be > done. It’s funny to me when people praise me, call me strong, brave, and > all these other names. I’m literally just doing what I have to do.” >

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  6. I really liked this post! im new to blogging and i would like to follow you, would you mind following me back? look forward to your future posts xx Bek

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