Be yourself. Why would you want to blend in when you were born to stand out?
I’ve never been more miserable and insecure than I was when I was trying to fit in with the rest of the world.
Accepting myself and not letting my light be hidden or moved by those who don’t understand me has changed my world.
Have self compassion and get to know and love the real you. Don’t let others ever make you feel bad about being real.
It doesn’t matter what other people think of you.
Always do your best with honest intentions and nothing else matters.
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The Spoon Theory is an amazing way to explain the energy drain that many Autistic people feel. If I get too low in Spoons I get VERY sick so it is important for me to conserve my energy and avoid too many activities that take away the most spoons.
Some activities take more out of me than others, even enjoyable activities can be taxing on my spoon supply. Socializing and having a full time job uses almost all of my spoons most days. Sitting under florescent lights or being in a loud noisy environment slowly drains my spoons as well.
I limit my social activities and don’t get out on days that I go to work since these take up so much energy.
Also I need time to “regather my spoons”. After I get worn down it takes time to build my energy levels back up. It is extremely important that I have quiet time to recover or I can get stuck in a repeated meltdown / burnout loop.
One of my favorite shows –
Lamar Hardwick contributor to popular disability page The Mighty shares a story that many of us can relate to. In response to a comment that many of us have heard before “You don’t look / seem Autistic? You must not be THAT Autistic.” As if all Autistic people look the same.
Sometimes I hide in the bathroom when I need a break. It may be 5 to 30 minutes before I get my anxiety under control but the little breaks help a LOT. I like to read or write when hiding in the bathroom because engagement in one of my special interests helps me to relax.
I am writing this in the bathroom right now.
All to stay Anonymously Autistic.
Nothing gets the attention of the room quite like an adult lying on the floor curled in a ball crying. If you truly want to be Anonymously Autistic it is extremely important to keep your meltdowns to yourself.
Meltdowns happen, I get it but most neurotypicals don’t. They’ve never felt the panic and pain of a meltdown and do not have the ability to truly understand what we are going through.
It is important to stay well rested and learn to spot signs that a meltdown is becoming imminent. I always try to have an exist strategy when I go somewhere even if it’s just a bathroom, to my own car, or for a walk.
When I have a meltdown being around other people is the last thing I want anyway. Its easier for me to recover if I am left alone. People look at you helpless, desperate to make you feel better, not knowing the best help they can give is to leave you alone.
Aspie Tip # 5 – No Public Meltdowns