“Do Autistic people have sex?” Yes – we do… and sometimes we don’t. That all depends on the situation.
Sometimes when you have sensory processing disorder sex is uncomfortable even if your partner is doing everything right. It can be hard for us to communicate with our partners about our needs and discomfort.
For me sex can be very pleasurable, painful, and intense.
I still think of it as something used for reproduction more than anything else.
I’ve got a strange relationship with my own sexuality. There have been times in my life where I was non-sexual, hyper-sexual, sapiosexual, and bisexual. Honestly I don’t know where my sexuality stands. I just love good people.
We are all creatures who derive satisfaction from and continuously seek out anything that feels good to us. Individuals on the spectrum are not exempt. I crave intimacy because regardless of what I may have, it’s still a natural instinct. Like flirting, if I initiate sex I’m better able to control the sensory reactions that sometimes come up for me.
Participating in flirting and sex calls us to be present in those moments. With autism it means I’m constantly analyzing it. It’s automatic and subconscious. I actually have to tell myself somewhere in my brain to stop, loosen up the rigidity, and just feel and go with the flow.