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I’ve Been Blogging for 1 Year – THANK YOU

Today, December 4, 2016 the AnonymouslyAutistic Blog turns 1!

When I started this blog a year ago I never would have guessed that it would have grown so much. I started writing after months of depression over the problems facing Autistic people all over the world.

I spent the first thirty years of my life misunderstood and now – thanks to all of my readers – I am finally spreading the truth.

To my readers – each and every one of you has inspired me to keep writing and keep sharing. Because of you the vast inner-world of my inner-voice has been set free.

I hope that some day the voice that comes out of my mouth is as strong as the voice that radiates from my keyboard but until then I am thankful for today and the accomplishments that it brings.

 

Until then, I am still yours.

Anonymously Autistic,

Anna

 

I’m Thankful for YOU

Ready or not the holidays are here. This Thanksgiving I am thankful for all of the people in my life including every one of my readers. I have been blessed with so many amazing people – in the real world and online.

When I started this blog I never would have imagined the response that it would created. I was just writing to work some things out and as I typed so did my readers.

In a flood of questions, comments of support YOU my readers encourage me to keep writing and tell me not to stop.

Some days I cannot even keep up with all of the emails and blog comments. Honesty it can be a bit overwhelming at times but I am always grateful.

I truly believe that focusing on being grateful for all the things that you do have and not focusing on what you are missing is the key to a happy life.

This Thanksgiving what are you thankful for?

Autism Speaks Changes Mission – No Longer Seeking Cure

I’ve had negative feelings towards the organization Autism Speaks for a long time.

The were like a large and mighty enemy, spreading cure culture and promoting Autistic genocide.

They wanted to find a way to prevent Autistic children from being born (according to their mission statement) and that made me VERY uncomfortable.

 

In a 2006 press release, Autism Speaks stated as its goal “to accelerate and fund biomedical research into the causes,prevention, treatments and cure for autism spectrum disorders; to increase awareness of the disorder; and to improve the quality of life of affected individuals and their families. [. . .]
We are dedicated to funding global biomedical research into the causes, prevention, treatments and a possible cure for autism. We strive to raise public awareness about autism and its effects on individuals, families and society: and we work to bring hope to all who deal with the hardships of this disorder.”

Autism Speaks was a giant and I was just one little voice desperately screaming the only truths I knew through a keyboard.

My voice is small, but I was not alone.

We spoke out, we screamed, we made videos. Autistic people all over the world spoke up and together our voice was large.

Maybe our voices grew loud enough that the giant finally heard us – or at least that is the happy story that I’m telling myself.

The truth is I don’t have an insider’s point of view from Autism Speaks, so I can’t possibly know the reason.

At this point does the reason really matter?

The new version, which the nonprofit says has been in the works since at least late last year, takes a decidedly different tack.

“Autism Speaks is dedicated to promoting solutions, across the spectrum and throughout the lifespan, for the needs of individuals with autism and their families through advocacy and support; increasing understanding and acceptance of autism spectrum disorder; and advancing research into causes and better interventions for autism spectrum disorder and related conditions,” reads the update. “Autism Speaks enhances lives today and is accelerating a spectrum of solutions for tomorrow.”

Michelle Diament – Disability Scoop

This new language makes Autism Speaks feel more like a friend. It is almost like we want some of the same things. Is it too good to be true?

I have the cookie in my hand, but I am hesitant to take a bite. Is it laced with slow acting poison?

As awareness has progressed, more have come to understand that autism spectrum disorder is not an illness, but a neurological difference that may present challenges for an individual growing up in a world designed for the neurotypical brain. An estimated one in 68 children in the U.S. are on the autism spectrum. It’s important to remember these children grow up to be autistic adults, who deserve support and acceptance.

Finally, after years of suffering, are we heading out of the “Autism Dark Ages”?
So much harm has already been done. Can they really repair the damage? Only time will tell but I feel as if this is a step in the right direction.

‘AspieComic’ Michael McCreary in studio q

The AspieComic – talking candidly in this interview about his life being Neurodiverse.

I personally think I have a great since of humor. In fact, I think that my ability to laugh at life and myself has been essential to who I have become. It’s not healthy to take life so seriously all the time. Laughter really is the best medicine.

Aspies CAN be funny. #BreakingStigmas #ActuallyAutistic

I can take NO credit for this video by q on cbc. Please check them out for more videos.

This Is Me (Aspergers) – Princess Aspien

I was SO excited to find Princess Aspien‘s channel on YouTube. It is super exciting to find such an articulate young Aspian woman who is sharing her story and experience. Her perspective is so happy and positive and we need MORE of this type of happiness and acceptance in this world.

“That’s who I am’ and that’s what I’m meant to be.”

Please subscribe to Princess Aspien‘s channel on YouTube for more great positive videos.

She also had a great video about Autism Service dogs. I do believe that interacting with dogs as a child was essential to my mental development and helped me learn  to connect with this world and feel love.

Pets CAN be great for Autistic children IF they are calm, quiet, and well behaved.

Aspie Sean Week 47: “Don’t tell us we’re high functioning like it’s a compliment”

First off – do not tell me that I am high functioning or low functioning. Ever. The truth is my functioning level varies from day to day. Someday just getting out of bed is an accomplishment and other days I am out and about concurring the corporate world.

Functioning labels are not helpful for anyone and they suggest that Autistic people who cannot pass off as Neurotypical are somehow less – despite many non-verbal Aspies (like Carly Fleischmann) being very intelligent despite difficulties controlling their bodies and communication impairments like Apraxia and Alexithymia.

It makes me SO mad because I know how it feels to be underestimated, for people to think you are stupid when you don’t express yourself the way they expect you to. The voice that comes out of my mouth never measures up to my inner voice or the voice that comes out when I type.

I really think high functioning means you hide your AS traits well… which is actually what someone told me once “you hide it well” like THAT is a compliment. “You hide who you really are very well so that the rest of us can feel comfortable” is what I hear when somebody says that.

It’s offensive and needs to stop.

Aspie Sean – a man with great perspective and who is very talented in speaking out loud agrees that saying “You must be high functioning” is NOT a compliment.

I can take no credit for the video. Please subscribe to Aspie Sean for more great content.

False Stereotypes | The Asperger Help Desk

Stereotypes and Stigmas are one of my biggest obsticals. People expect me to fit into society because they do not know I am Autistic but if I tell someone that I am Autistic they say “you are so smart, you can’t possible be Autistic”.

If you’ve met one person with Autism you have met one person with Autism. The same thing can be said for non-Autistic people. If you’ve met one “normal person” you’ve met one “normal person”.

Why would anyone think that everyone in a group is exactly the same? That is completely illogical.

#actuallyAutistic #SheCantBeAutistic

Reb Records – How I Hide My Autism

Reb Records – a beautiful, brilliant, young woman on the Autism spectrum talks about how she blends in as an Autistic woman on the spectrum.

I can relate SO much to what she says about avoiding IKEA, the mall, and Walmart because of the sensory overload.

“Passing” is something that is extremely common among Autistic women. Our disabilities are invisible and we hide them. We manage to get through our day and than crash and burn when we get home and are finally alone. I do this too.

So much of what she says could actually  be my own words – although I can take NO credit for her video.

Please check out Reb Records‘s channel on YouTube and subscribe for more great content.

#SheCantBeAutistic #actuallyAutistic #AnonymouslyAutistic

Laura Spoerl – How My Autism Affects Sex, and How Sex Affects My Autism – The Mighty

“Do Autistic people have sex?” Yes – we do… and sometimes we don’t. That all depends on the situation.

I don’t talk about sex much on my blog but sex happens so let’s talk about the amazing article written by Laura Spoerl contributor to one of my favorite sights – The Mighty.

Sometimes when you have sensory processing disorder sex is uncomfortable even if your partner is doing everything right. It can be hard for us to communicate with our partners about our needs and discomfort.

For me sex can be very pleasurable, painful, and intense.

I still think of it as something used for reproduction more than anything else.

I’ve got a strange relationship with my own sexuality. There have been times in my life where I was non-sexual, hyper-sexual,  sapiosexual, and bisexual. Honestly I don’t know  where my sexuality stands. I just love good people.

Although I can completely relate to what she has to say – I can take NO credit for the information below PLEASE do check out Laura’s full post HERE on The Mighty.

We are all creatures who derive satisfaction from and continuously seek out anything that feels good to us. Individuals on the spectrum are not exempt. I crave intimacy because regardless of what I may have, it’s still a natural instinct. Like flirting, if I initiate sex I’m better able to control the sensory reactions that sometimes come up for me.

Participating in flirting and sex calls us to be present in those moments. With autism it means I’m constantly analyzing it. It’s automatic and subconscious. I actually have to tell myself somewhere in my brain to stop, loosen up the rigidity, and just feel and go with the flow.

PLEASE do check out Laura’s full post HERE on The Mighty.

#SheCantBeAutistic

A powerful hashtag (#SheCantBeAutistic) has been blowing up on Twitter this month bringing attention to an issue that I’ve been talking about a lot recently.

I was not diagnosed until I was 30 years old because people thought #SheCantBeAutistic.

They were wrong. I am Autistic and I spent too many years waiting to find that out.

Below are just a few of the reasons that I “can’t be Autistic”.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she has a great job.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she pays her bills on time.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she works full time.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she has a husband.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she has pets.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she is too smart.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she wears makeup.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she bathes.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she is very talkative.

#SheCantBeAutistic – her imagination is rally good.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she has feelings.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she knows how to read and write.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she is successful in life.

#SheCantBeAutistic – she seems happy and warm.