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I’m Not Normal – That’s Okay

My brain and body work differently than most people. That’s not really a problem until someone expects me to do things “their way”.

I do things differently and typically have to teach myself most things unless I have an AMAZING teacher.

This was a problem for me in school, because my teachers couldn’t understand “my way” any more than I understood the way they did things.

I see things differently in my mind than other people. First I think visually but I also have a way to access complex language when typing. I can think of words but I don’t think in words. The words are accessible but primarily my head is full of snapshots and videos. All my memories are videos but most of them have no sound.

I have sound memories too, but they are separate from the words and videos unless the sounds come from music. Music is an amazing world for me – I feel it so deeply in every inch of my body and brain.

I don’t remember words. They don’t stick – unless they are sung or repeated over and over and over again rhythmically. Sometimes I do this in my head if I have to remember something but if you ask me to repeat back to you something you just said to me – you are out of luck.

I don’t speak the way I type. I often spend a lot of time observing in the background.

When I do speak up, I keep things short, unless I am in a chatty mood or on a topic I love. Than I can ramble mindlessly forever and nobody can get a word in. (I try NOT to do this because I realize that it’s rude – another reason I stay away from alcohol.)

Humor makes life easier and being able to laugh at myself whenever I have a social mistake (because they happen EVERY time I am around my coworkers) has saved my life.

Before I would let the anxiety of trying to be “work appropriate” get to me. I did not trust myself. Now that I laugh things off – and in my head I say “Asperger’s” as cartoon caricature of me is rolling her eyes at me in my head.

I smile back.

I don’t blame myself for these mistakes but I try to learn something from every single one of them. Hopefully I will remember next time (or the time after that) not to make the same mistake. I remind myself that I am doing the best I can and move forward.

Self compassion.

I’m not normal but as long as I am doing my best – that’s okay.

What happens to children with autism, when they become adults? Kerry Magro – TEDx

I LOVE a good Ted talk. Today I stumbled across the following Ted talk about what happens to Autistic children when they grow up.

Autistic kids grow up to be Autistic Adults.

Once again I can not take credit for the following TEDx Talks video by  Kerry Margo. Please subscribe to TEDx for more though provoking content and be sure to checkout Kerry Margo on Kerrymagro.com

The invisible girls on the Autism Spectrum — Everyday Autism

Autistic women and girls are often misdiagnosed if they are noticed at all. Only a few years ago Autism was thought of as a  condition that primarily effected boys. I keep hearing more and more about all the other women who have grown up under the radar, diagnosed, and often lost in a very confusing life.

I recently helped a friend with her niece, who had just been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. My friend strongly felt that this diagnosis was wrong, and after reading more about my symptoms and experiences with ASD believed that her niece “Anne” (name changed) was actually Autistic. The symptoms were all there – social issues, […]

via The invisible girls on the Autism Spectrum — Everyday Autism

The Invisibility of Black Autism — Discover

More from my news feed. I’ve written openly about the invisibility of Autism in females, but women and girls are not the only Aspies being missed.

Steve Silberman, the author of NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity, explores the challenges faced by autistic people of color in gaining access to proper health care.

via The Invisibility of Black Autism — Discover