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I Really LOVE My Readers!!!

I’m not back from hiatus yet, but had the urge to check the comments for my blog. Very glad I did. All of the positivity and well wishes were exactly what I needed today. Thank you ALL for your support in my needs for self care.

I am working on creative projects and reflecting deeply on myself, goals, and the path for myself.

In addition, I am participating in autism research, working with professionals who actually care about what #ActuallyAutistic people have to say. IF WE want to be a part of Autism science WE have to make that step and jump in somewhere.

Last month I did an interview with a researcher and will share a link to it on my blog when it goes up. Just proofread the article and am very pleased with it. Stay tuned!

With deepest love and appreciation,


10 things I wish people knew about dating someone who has autism

Once again I can not take credit for this amazing article, however I stumbled across it whole obsessing over one of my two special interests – Autism.

I think Kerry may be one of my new favorite bloggers! 🙂

Here are some things you need to know when it comes to dating someone with autism…

      10. Just because we may want to be by ourselves at times doesn’t mean we don’t care about you.

Some of us want to unwind during a long day just like anyone else.

      9. Eye contact may be difficult for us at times.

When we are having a conversation if I’m not looking at you right in the eyes don’t think I’m trying to give you the cold shoulder.

       8. Ask me any question you have.

Although we may have difficulties with communication, we still need you to be as open with us as possible to avoid misunderstandings. Ask us questions early to avoid issues later.


Please do check out Kerry Margo’s blog  and the full post here.

Watch Autism In Love Online for Free – NOW through Apr 10 2016

UPDATE – as of 6/4/2016 this documentary is currently on Netflix.

The highly anticipated documentary, Autism In Love can be watched online for free until April 10, 2016 on PBS.org via the link below.

Finding love can be hard enough for anyone, but for those on the autism spectrum, the challenges may seem overwhelming. The disorder can jeopardize the core characteristics of a successful relationship — communication and social interaction. Autism in Love offers a warm and stereotype-shattering look at four people with autism as they pursue and manage romantic relationships.



Does Anybody Else Love Matthew Gray Gubler?

My husband and I have been watching Criminal Minds on Netflix over the past few months. We have just started our final season, and as I begin to morn the inevitable impending loss of my Gubler fix, I have begun to seek out other sources.

I stumbled across this short film, The Beauty Inside. Episode 3. It Has To Be Tonight., by Lucille Gubler and was not disappointed.

Autism, Asperger’s, Relationships and Love

Being in a relationship is difficult for people without social impairments. Being in a relationship with an Aspie can be frustrating whether both partners are on the spectrum or not.

I love my husband. He is my favorite person in the entire world but I don’t envy him.

I can be a difficult person to live with. Being affectionate doesn’t always come naturally to me. When I am feeling tired or worn down I often retreat into myself, shutting out the world, becoming cold and robotic.

In addition to occasionally becoming the real life version of the ice queen, there are other Aspergian traits that my husband takes in stride.

Stores can be overwhelming to me, especially if I’ve had a long or stressful day. He talks to people at the supermarket checkout lines so I don’t have to. My husband also  helps to keep me on track during our shopping trips, since I am easily distracted in busy places.

When we go out with friends or coworkers, my husband is like my Neurotypical translator.

I have a very hard time reading the faces of people I don’t know very well (even people I do know can be hard to read). My husband’s face provides comfort, and his familiar expressions give me conversational cues that would otherwise be missed. He even stops me discretely if I end up going off on a tangent or am offending someone.

Being an Aspie in love can be difficult, our desire for solitude can put a strain on our relationships, especially if our partner  does not understand our needs. Being with a partner who is socially active can drive an Aspergian crazy. Social people thrive on communal gatherings much like Aspies thrive in solitude.

So is it better if Aspies date other Aspies? Well, that depends on your strengths and weaknesses. Being in a relationship with someone who has all the same deficits as you can create a very difficult or negative situation. There is no right or wrong answer to the question, but statistically Aspies do tend to end up with more introverted partners.

There is another dark side of being an Aspie in love, a very dark side – stalking and obsession. If the object of an Aspergian’s affection becomes that Aspie’s special interest some unhealthy behaviors can arise.

Shameful as it is, and it’s hard to admit, I was guilty of this in my younger and more naive years. My stalking was harmless, I would never hurt anyone, but could have easily gotten me into big trouble. This type of behavior seems to be common, especially in young Aspian women.

I feel truly lucky to have met my husband. In the years before I found out about Asperger’s, I had a lot of healing to do, and he helped me through it. He is my best friend, my true love, caregiver, and my protector.

Lucky for me on this Valentine’s Day – I am an Aspie in Love.