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Staying Anonymously Autistic – Tip 4 (Smell Nice)

If you are planning to see anyone or go our in public make sure you smell plesant. Check your hair, wear deodorant, brush your teeth, and get fresh before you leave the house (or have people over). Nothing screams “mental illness” like failure to care for oneself. Sad but true – if you don’t do these things people will wonder what is wrong with you.

Even if you have to wash your armpits with a washcloth in the sink and use dry shampoo, something quick – do it. Smelling nice is essential to blending in.

Just like Aspies notice humming light bulbs and distracting sounds in rooms – neurotically people notice body odor (and bad breath).

I like to wear natural food scented perfumes. Smelling something plesant is calming to me AND helps me to smell extra fresh.

Aspie Tip #4 – Smell good if you don’t want to stand out. 

*random note – unfortunately that is NOT my bathroom. 🙂

Resources for Families

A special thanks to Elena with Caring4OurKids and
Patricia Sarmiento with publichealthcorps.org for sharing the following useful links.

Autism Resources for Families
Sesame Street Autism Resources for Parents
Reduce the Noise: Help Loved Ones with Sensory Overload Enjoy Shopping
CDC Autism Links and Resources
Operation Autism for Military Families
Academic Accommodation Resources
Temple Grandin’s Teaching Tips
Organization for Autism Research Guide for Military Families
Estate Planning for Parents of Kids with Autism

What is Autism?

After the Autism Diagnosis: Staying Connected as a Couple

The Guide to Securing Life-long Accommodations for Adult Children with Special Needs

When an Autism Diagnosis Comes in Adulthood

Creating a Sensory-Friendly Home for Your Autistic Child

The Guide to Buying Used Accessible Vehicles

Supporting Individuals on the Autism Spectrum Coping with Grief and Loss through Death or Divorce

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Sleep

“The Reason I Jump” by Naoki Higashida: A Reconsideration of Autism, Empathy, and “Mind-Blindness” — Voices in Bioethics

I actually just read this over the weekend. It was very good.

by Sara M. Bergstresser• The field of bioethics has the potential to contribute to a better understanding of how the medical and social assumptions that accompany diagnostic categories impact the people who have been diagnosed. In particular, autism has recently been characterized as being defined by an inherent lack of empathy and as a state […]

via “The Reason I Jump” by Naoki Higashida: A Reconsideration of Autism, Empathy, and “Mind-Blindness” — Voices in Bioethics

Autism Awareness – Autism Stories

For Autism Awareness Month, I will be sharing some of the Autism stories that I found inspiring.

Let’s spread awareness of REAL Autistic people. We don’t need a cure, we are not diseased, we need understanding.

Limpsfield Grange Girls with Autism

Original video by LimpsfieldGrange1 can be found on YouTube.

This was made by the autistic students at Limpsfield Grange School to raise awareness of girls with autism and was sponsored by vInspired.
This film has certainly raised awareness and ITV have made a one hour documentary about the school, we await the transmission date.
Our students have also written a book ‘M is for Autism’ which is being launched on 1st July by Jessica Kingsley publishers. To pre-order the book on Amazon click on the link http://amzn.to/1HYKOWH

Autism in Pink Documentary

Original video by The National Autistic Society can be found on YouTube.

The Autism in Pink project was an EU Lifelong Learning Programme funded partnership between four European organisations to research and educate about autism (including Asperger syndrome) in women.

The project gathered a group of women with autism in each country to attend workshops using the Personal Wellbeing Index (PWI Cummins 2005) as a structure. In this film made for the project by Uppercut Films, the women talk about their lives – the challenges they’ve faced and their personal achievements.

Non-Verbal Autistic Girl Shows the World Her Heart

A video from an ABC special, titled Autistic Girl Expresses Unimaginable Intelligence is a good example of how many non-verbal Aspies can be dismissed. I do not agree with the video’s title, as it suggests that a non-verbal Aspie cannot be intelligent.

Although I am verbal, it bothers me greatly much that the spoken word is used to measure intelligence.  My intelligence definitely shows more when I am able to type my thoughts out. Sometimes I have a hard time expressing myself accurately out loud and tend to stick to pre-prepared stock phrases and answers.

Mean Words from Adults – A Misunderstood Child

Growing up adults had a lot of words to describe my inconvenient behaviors – defiant, smart-Alec, manipulative, inconsiderate, lazy, stubborn. Some of these words came out of the mouths of family members but teachers always had the most to say.

My mother would say that I was very smart and could succeed at anything, if I would only apply myself. She also called me manipulative when I tried desperately to control my surroundings. Many times my grandmother called me “Smarty” in a sarcastic tone when I interpreted her too literally.

My teachers called me disruptive, inattentive, and lazy when I was bored with the lessons they were teaching in class and overwhelmed by the sensory assault bough about by the classroom environment.  They didn’t seem to care that I already knew how to read or understand that learning my alphabet seemed illogical to me. I didn’t understand why they were going over this baby stuff.

They sent me away to a special education reading group when I had trouble reading out loud. Never mind that I was reading above grade level in my head, the teachers wanted to hear it. Speaking out loud in front of an entire classroom filled with mean kids who bullied me was terrifying.

I have never cared much about proving my intelligence to others, teachers included. I’ve always been able to hold myself accountable for my own knowledge. Why wasn’t that good enough?

In math class I was accused of being a cheater because I could easily do the problems in my head and did not show my work. Writing out all the steps was illogical and a waste of time. I’ve always had trouble with fine motor control, and even now writing by hand hurts after only a little while.

So many mean words, so many assumptions. My entire childhood, more than anything I was misunderstood.

Bright Not Broken – Gifted Kids ADHD & Autism

I read a lot. I also listen to a lot of audio books if I am cleaning or in the car. True to the Aspie nature, I am happiest when I am learning about my field of interest. Since learning that I am on the Autism Spectrum, ASD and mental health have been in the forefront of my mind.

Most of what I read has been about Autism in women and adults, because I feel as if this is a field that was neglected for many years. When my most recent Audible credit arrived I was drawn to a book that has a focus on bright and brilliant ASD & ADHD children.

Bright Not Broken: Gifted Kids, ADHD, and Autism written by: Diane M. Kennedy, Rebecca S. Banks,Temple Grandin, focuses on a group of children known as twice exceptional, or “2e”. Twice exceptional kids are both gifted and diagnosed with a disability – often ADHD or an Autism Spectrum Disorder. These children have the potential to be our next Mozart, Isaac Newton, or Albert Einstein if we give them the right tools in life. 

Unfortunately the gifts and talents of some of our most brilliant kids may never be recognized if we overlook these kids’s talents and focus solely on their weaknesses. It is easy for these children get lost in an endless cycle, piling on harmful diagnostic labels.

Bright Not Broken sheds new light on this vibrant population by identifying who twice exceptional children are and taking an unflinching look at why they’re stuck. The first work to boldly examine the widespread misdiagnosis and controversies that arise from our current diagnostic system, it serves as a wake-up call for parents and professionals to question why our mental health and education systems are failing our brightest children.

Most importantly, the authors show what we can do to help 2e children, providing a whole child model for parents and educators to strengthen and develop a child’s innate gifts while also intervening to support the deficits. Drawing on painstaking research and personal experience, Bright Not Broken offers groundbreaking insight and practical strategies to those seeking to help 2e kids achieve their full potential.

The book is very scientific and has more of a textbook feel, so if you like warm and fuzzy or have a hard time reading non-fiction this title might not be for you. Listening to it on Audible while you are driving or cleaning house might make it easier to digest if you have a hard time sitting still through something so information focused.

However, I really do feel as if this title looks at Autism and ADHD in a unique way, and can help shed light on why our brightest and most brilliant minds are often left behind in society.

If you prefer to read on Kindle or want a physical copy – you can purchase the book here.

Angela Goodwin’s How to Teach Autistic Children More Effectively Using Educational Psychology –

On of my readers shared a link something that she had written.

Please have a look at Angela Goodwin‘s Book  How to Teach Autistic Children More Effectively Using Educational Psychology and My Own Experiences and Knowledge Kindle Edition -An educational handbook to help those that interact with people with Autism and Asperger’s Syndrome correctly.

You can learn more about Angela and her work on her blog.